236、⑵在婚姻中，属灵之冷就是灵魂的分裂和心智的分离；冷漠、不和、蔑视、反感、憎恶由此而来；在很多情况下，这些最终导致从床榻、卧室和家里分离。当最初的爱消退并变得冷淡时，这些事便临到夫妻身上；这也是众所周知的，无需讨论。原因在于，比起其它冷淡，婚姻的冷淡居于人心智的更深处。因为婚姻关系的本质被铭刻在灵魂上，以便一个灵魂能从另一个灵魂繁殖，父亲的灵魂能继续存在于他的孩子里面。正因如此，这种冷淡从那里开始，逐渐降至随后各层，在那里毒害它们，使得最初之爱的幸福快乐沦为不快和悲伤。
236、（2）精神上的冷漠就是灵魂和思想上的相互分离。它是由婚姻中的彼此的相互冷淡，不一致，厌恶等情绪产生的，会最后导致分居。
这一点很明显，这就是当双方最初的爱，退却并变冷后的情况。
婚姻中的这种冷漠状态比其它各种冷漠状态更深地根植于人的头脑中。婚姻关系的本质是深刻在灵魂之上的，是灵魂的产生和父亲灵魂的繁衍。作为结果，婚姻中的冷漠由此而产生，并渐渐影响其它部分，最终使得美好的婚姻变成失败的。
236. (ii) Spiritual coldness in marriage is disunion of souls and a parting of minds leading to indifference, discord, contempt, hatred and turning away. In many cases these lead eventually to separation from bed, bedroom and home.
It is too well known to need discussing that these things befall married couples, when their first flush of love departs and turns to coldness. The reason is that coldness in marriage occupies a higher place in the human mind than any other kind of coldness; for the principle of marriage is imprinted on the soul, in order that one soul may be propagated from another, and the father's may be continued in his children. That is why this coldness begins there and by stages spreads downwards to the following levels, where it poisons them, so turning the happiness and pleasure of the first flush of love into sadness and unpleasantness.
236. 2. Spiritual coldness in marriage is a disunion of souls and disjunction of minds, resulting in indifference, discord, contempt, loathing, and aversion, and leading finally in many cases to separation from the bed, bedroom and house. It is too well known to require any comment that this is what happens between married partners when their original love fades and turns cold.
These states occur because coldness in marriage is seated more deeply in human minds than any other feelings of coldness. For the essence of the conjugial relationship is engraved on the soul, in order that one soul may be procreated from another and the father's soul propagated into offspring. As a result, marital coldness starts there, and progressively descending into subsequent elements it infects these as well, and so turns the happy and delightful states of the earlier love into sad and unpleasant ones.
236. 2. In marriages, spiritual coldness is souls not together and minds not connected. This makes for indifference, discord, contempt, loathing, and aversion. In the end, these things lead many to separate from bed, bedroom, and home. There is no need to comment on the well - known fact that this happens to married partners while their first love is passing away and growing cold. The reason is that coldness toward marriage resides in the human mind above all other coldness.
Marriage itself is inscribed on the soul, so that soul may beget soul and the soul of a father may be ingrafted in his offspring. So this coldness begins in the soul and passes down to the subordinate parts, one after another, infecting them, and so it makes sadness and depression out of the joys and delights of first love.
236. II. THAT IN MARRIAGES, SPIRITUAL COLD IS DISUNION OF SOULS AND DISJUNCTION OF MINDS, WHENCE COMES INDIFFERENCE, DISCORD, CONTEMPT, LOATHING, AVERSION; FROM WHICH, WITH MANY, COMES FINALLY SEPARATION FROM BED, CHAMBER, AND HOUSE. That such is the case with married partners if their first love declines and becomes cold, is too well known to need comment. The reason is because conjugial cold resides in human minds above all other colds; for the conjugial is inscribed upon the soul to the end that soul may be propagated from soul, and the soul of a father into his offspring. Hence it is that this cold begins there and passes down successively into the parts that follow, and infects them, and so turns the gladsome and delightful things of the first love into things sad and undelightful.
236. (ii) Spiritual cold in marriage is disunion of souls and disjunction of minds; whence come indifference, discord, contempt, disgust and aversion, which lead at length with many to separation from bed, chamber and house. It is too well known to need comment that such things befall partners when their early love has waned and turned cold. The reason is that marital cold resides above all other colds in human minds. For the marital is inscribed on the very soul, to the end that soul may be propagated from soul, and the soul of the father to the offspring. Thence it is that this coldness begins there and successively sinks down and infects derivatives, and thus turns the gladness and joy of the early love into sadness and joylessness.
236. (2) That spiritual cold in marriages is disunion of souls and disjunction of minds; whence come indifference, discord, contempt, loathing, and aversion; which lead at length with many to separation from bed, chamber, and house. That these things take place with married partners while their first love is passing away and growing cold, is too well known to need comment. The reason is that conjugial cold resides above all other colds in human minds; for the conjugial itself is inscribed upon the soul, to the end that soul may be propagated from soul, and that of the father in the offspring. Hence it is that this cold begins there, and passes down successively into the things following and infects them, and so turns the joys and delights of the first love into what is sad and undelightful.
236. II: Quod Frigus spirituale in Conjugiis sit disunio animarum, et disjunctio mentium; unde indifferentia, discordia, contemtus, fastidium, aversatio, ex quibus tandem apud plures separatio quoad torum, cubiculum, et domum. Quod haec fiant apud conjuges, dum primitivus illorum amor facessit, et fit frigus, notius est, quam ut commentatione egeat: causa est, quia frigus conjugiale supra omnia alia frigora in mentibus humanis residet; est enim ipsum Conjugiale inscriptum animae, propter finem ut propagetur anima ab anima, ac patris in proles; inde est, quod hoc frigus inceptet ibi, et successive in consequentia demeet, et haec inficiat, et sic vertat primitivi amoris laeta et jucunda in tristia et injucunda.