372、我说过，婚姻之爱含有对分离的恐惧和对灭亡的悲伤在里面，以致它的热情就像一团喷向入侵者的烈火。有一次，我在沉思这个主题时，就问一些嫉妒的天使，嫉妒究竟居于何处。他们说：“它就在接受妻子的爱，并回以她爱的男人的理解中；在那里，嫉妒的品质取决于男人的智慧。”他们还评论说，嫉妒与尊重有某种共同之处，尊重也在婚姻之爱里面，因为凡爱妻子的人也会尊重她。
至于热情为何居于男人的理解，他们解释说：“婚姻之爱藉着理解保护自己，如同良善藉着真理保护自己。妻子同样藉着丈夫保护他们所共享的一切。因此，热情被植入男人，并通过男人、为了男人的缘故而被植入女人。”当我问它居于男人心智的哪个区域时，他们回答说：“就在他们的灵魂中，因为它也是反对奸淫的一道防线，而奸淫是婚姻之爱的主要摧毁者。因此，当面临侵犯的危险时，男人的理解会变硬，就像抵撞奸夫的犄角。”
372、我们知道与婚姻之爱同在的是对失去它的畏惧，以及对它的消失的焦虚。它的热情是一种反抗侵袭的火。一次在思考这一问题时，我问一些处于热情zeal之中的天使关于嫉妒存在于何处。他们说它存在于那些有着妻子的爱并爱妻子的男人的才智中，它是与男人的智慧有关的。他们还说，嫉妒与自尊有一些共同点。
因为爱他的配偶的人也同时尊重他的配偶。
关于为什么嫉妒在男人中存在于他们的才智中，天使们说婚姻之爱通过才智而保护自己，正如善通过真理而保护自己一样。因此妻子也通过她丈夫而保护着婚姻之爱。因此嫉妒根植于男人中，通过男人并因为男人而存在于女人中。
对于我问嫉妒存在于男人头脑中什么地方。天使回答说，它存在于他们的灵魂中，因为它也是对反对奸淫的一种保护。因为它会在根本上破坏婚姻之爱，所以对于奸淫者，男人的才智会因对它的反对而强硬起来。
372. I said that conjugial love has within it a fear of being separated, and grief at being destroyed, so that its zeal is like a fire aimed at a violator. I was once pondering this subject, and I asked some jealous angels where jealousy resided. They said that it was in the man's intellect, which receives the wife's love and loves her in return, and the kind of zeal there depended on his wisdom. They also remarked that jealousy has something in common with respect, which is also present in conjugial love, for one who loves his wife also respects her.
[2] They said that the reason why a man's zeal resides in his intellect is that conjugial love protects itself by means of the intellect, as good does by means of truth. In the same way a wife protects what she shares with her husband by means of him. Thus it is that zeal is within men, and by their means and for their sake in women. When I asked in what part of the men's mind it resided, they replied that it was in their soul, because it is also a defence against adultery, and this is what principally destroys conjugial love. They added that a man's intellect becomes hardened when in danger of violation, and comes to resemble a horn with which to strike the adulterer.
372. We have said that inherent in conjugial love is a fear of its being sundered, and an anguish at the possibility of its perishing; also that its zeal is like a fire against encroachment. When I was once reflecting on this subject, I asked some zealous angels about the seat of jealousness. They said that it is in the intellect of a man who receives his partner's love and loves her in return, and that its quality there is according to his wisdom. They said, too, that jealousness has something in common with esteem, which is also present in conjugial love; for anyone who loves his partner also esteems her.
[2] On the point that zeal in a man has its seat in his intellect, the reason, they said, is that conjugial love protects itself through the intellect, as good protects itself through truth. Thus a wife protects those concerns which she has in common with a man through her husband. And for that reason zeal is implanted in men, and through men and on account of men in women.
In response to my asking in what region of the mind in men it resides, they replied, in their souls, because it is also a protection against adulterous affairs. And since these are what principally destroy conjugial love, the man's intellect hardens at threats of encroachment and becomes like a horn smiting the adulterer.
372. We said that inherent in married love is fear of separation and anguish lest love end, and that its zeal is like a fire against violation. Thinking about this one time, I asked some angels with zeal about where jealousy resides. They said that it is in the intellect of a man who receives his partner's love and loves in turn, and that what the jealousy is like depends on his wisdom. They also said that jealousy has something in common with honor, which is also in married love, for whoever loves his partner also honors her.
"The reason why a man's zeal resides in his intellect," they said, "is this. Married love protects itself by intellect just as good does by the truth. In the same way a wife protects through her husband the things they have in common. And this is why zeal is implanted in men, and in women through men and because of men."
I asked, "What part of men's minds does zeal reside in?"
They answered, "In their souls, because it is also a protection against adultery, and this especially destroys married love, so the man's intellect hardens up in peril of violation and becomes like a horn, goring the adulterer."
372. It was said that in conjugial love is implanted fear lest it be divided, and grief lest it perish; and that its zeal is like fire directed against violation. Once, when meditating upon this, I asked certain zealous angels respecting the seat of jealousy. They said: "It is in the understanding of the man who receives the love of his partner and loves her in return, and its quality there is according to his wisdom." They also said that jealousy has something in common with honor, which also is within conjugial love, for he who loves his partner also honors her.
[2] As to the reason why with a man zeal resides in his understanding, they said: "Conjugial love protects itself by the understanding, as good protects itself by truth. So a wife protects those things which she has in common with the man by her husband. Therefore, zeal is implanted in men, and through men and on account of men, in women." To the question, in what region of the mind does it reside with men, they answered: "In their souls, because it is also a protection against adulteries, and because these are what principally destroy conjugial love. Therefore, in the presence of attempts at its violation, the man's Understanding hardens and becomes as a horn smiting the adulterer."
372. We have said that in marital love a fear is planted lest it be sundered and a grief lest it perish, and that its zeal is like a fire against violation. Meditating on these matters once, I asked some zealous angels about the seat of jealousy. They said it is in the understanding of a man who receives and reciprocates his partner's love, and that the quality of the jealousy is according to the man's wisdom. They went on to say that jealousy has something in common with honor, which is also present in marital love, for one who loves his partner honors her, too. For the residence of zeal with the man in his understanding they gave this reason: marital love protects itself by the understanding as good does by truth; so the wife protects the life she has in common with the man through the husband; and therefore zeal is implanted in men, and through and on account of men in women. To the question in what region of the mind it resides with men, they replied "In their souls," because it is also a protection against adulteries, and as these principally destroy marital love, the man's understanding hardens itself at the threat of violation and becomes like a horn smiting the adulterer.
372. It was said that inherent in conjugial love there is fear lest it be divided, and grief lest it perish; and that its zeal against violation is like fire. Meditating once upon this, I asked zealous angels respecting the seat of jealousy. They said it was in the understanding of the man who receives the love of his married partner and loves in return; and that its quality in the understanding is according to his wisdom. They also said that jealousy has something in common with honor, which also inheres in conjugial love; for he who loves his married partner also honors her.
'The reason why zeal with the man resides in his understanding,' they said, 'is this, that conjugial love protects itself by the understanding, as good does by truth. Thus the wife protects the things that are in common with the man through her husband; and for that reason zeal is implanted in. the men, and by men and for the sake of men in women.'
To the question, 'In what region of the mind does it reside with men?' they answered:
'In their soul, because it is also the protection against adulteries; and because these principally destroy conjugial love, in perils of violation the understanding of the man hardens, and becomes as a horn smiting the adulterer.'
372. Dictum est, quod Amori conjugiali insitus sit timor ne dividatur, ac dolor ne pereat, et quod Zelus ejus sit sicut ignis contra violationem; de his quondam meditatus interrogavi Angelos zelotes de sede Zelotypiae; dixerunt, quod sit in intellectu viri, qui recipit amorem conjugis, et redamat, et quod qualitas ejus ibi sit secundum sapientiam illius: inquierunt etiam, quod Zelotypia aliquid commune habeat cum honore, qui etiam inest amori conjugiali, nam qui amat conjugem, etiam honorat illam.
[2] Quod Zelus apud virum 1in intellectu ejus resideat, dixerunt hanc causam, quia amor conjugialis 2semet tutatur per intellectum, sicut bonum per verum, ita uxor illa quae cum viro communia sunt, per maritum, et quod ideo Zelus insitus viris, ac per viros et propter viros foeminis. Ad interrogationem in qua regione mentis apud viros residet, responderunt in Anima illorum, quia etiam est tutamen contra adulteria; et quia haec principaliter destruunt amorem conjugialem, quod intellectus viri in periculis violationis indurescat, et fiat sicut cornu feriens adulterum.
Footnotes:
1. Prima editio: v rum
2. Prima editio: coniugialis