215、⑸那些享有真正婚姻之爱的人不断想成为一个人；而那些缺乏真正婚姻之爱的人则想成为两个人。婚姻之爱本质上无非是两个人合而为一的意愿，也就是说，是他们两个生命合为一个生命的意愿。这意愿就是婚姻之爱的不懈努力，而这爱的一切结果皆从这努力流出。努力是活动的本质，对人来说，意愿就是活的努力。这一点已被哲学家们的研究所证实，并且对那些运用洞察力研究问题的人来说，是显而易见的。由此可知，那些享有真正婚姻之爱的人不断做出这种努力，也就是想要成为一个人。那些缺乏真正婚姻之爱的人则恰好相反，他们自己十分清楚这一点。其灵魂和心智的分离使他们不断想成为两个人，所以他们并不明白主说这句话的意思，即：“他们不再是两个，乃是一体的了”（马太福音19:6）。
215、（5）处于真正婚姻之爱的人不断希望成为一个人，而不拥有真正婚姻之爱的人的情况则相反。
婚姻之爱的本质就是要合二为一或者说愿意两个人变为一个人，这种意愿就是不断地增加这种爱，这点可以从对哲学家的研究中看到。受过良好教育的人也会看到，努力的行为是一种动机的的本质。这种意愿在人身上就是一种努力的行为，因此拥有真正婚姻之爱的人会一直有这种努力的行为，希望成为一个人。
相反没有真正婚姻之爱的人会不断地将自己认为是个个体。因为他们缺乏灵魂和思想上的统一，他们也看不到主所说的“他们不再是两个人而是一个人。”
215. (v) Those who enjoy truly conjugial love continually want to be a single person, but those who do not, want to be two people.
Conjugial love is in essence nothing but two people wishing to be one, that is, wishing their two lives to be one. That wish is the permanent effort of that love, from which all its results follow. Effort is the essence of movement, and a wish is a lively effort on a person's part; this has been established by the investigations of philosophers and is obvious to those who study the matter with discernment. Hence it follows that those who enjoy truly conjugial love are continually making this effort, that is, wishing to be a single person. Those who do not enjoy truly conjugial love know full well themselves that the reverse is true of them. The disunion of their souls and minds makes them continually think of themselves as two. That too is why they do not understand the meaning of the Lord's words, that they are no longer two, but one flesh (Matthew 19:6).
215. 5. People who are in a state of truly conjugial love continually wish to be one person, but those who are not in a state of conjugial love want to be two separate individuals. Conjugial love in its essence is nothing else but the wish of two to be one, or, in other words, a will on their part that their two lives become one life. To carry out that will is the constant endeavor of this love, and all that it does flows from it. It has been established from the investigations of philosophers, and it is also evident to people of educated reason who reflect, that effort is the very essence of motion, and that will in the human being is a living effort. It follows from this that people who are in a state of truly conjugial love continually have within them an effort, or will, to be one person.
That the opposite is the case with those who are not in a state of conjugial love, they themselves very well know. For they constantly think of themselves as two separate individuals, owing to a lack of union between their souls and minds, and they therefore do not see what is meant by the Lord's words, that "they are no longer two but one flesh" (Matthew 19:6).
215. 5. People who have real married love constantly want to be one person, but those who do not have married love want to be two. Essentially, married love is nothing but two people wanting to be one.
That is, they want two lives to become one life. This wish is their love's constant effort - the wellspring of all its actions.
Investigations by philosophers confirm that effort is precisely the essence of motion, and an intention is a living effort in a person. This is clear, too, to people who think about it with skilled reason. So it follows that people who have real married love always make an effort - in other words want - to be one person.
People who do not have married love are just the opposite, as they well know. They do not grasp what the Lord's words mean - that they are no longer two, but one flesh (Matthew 19:6)because, due to the separation of their souls and minds, they always think that they are two people.
215. V. THAT THOSE WHO ARE IN LOVE TRULY CONJUGIAL CONTINUALLY WILL TO BE ONE MAN, BUT THOSE WHO ARE NOT IN CONJUGIAL LOVE WILL TO BE TWO. In its essence, conjugial love is nothing else than the willing of two to be a one, that is, their will that the two lives shall become one life. This will is the love's perpetual conatus from which flow all its effects. That conatus is the very essence of motion; and that with man, will is living conatus, is confirmed by the researches of philosophers, and, moreover, is evident to those who contemplate matters from a cultivated reason. It follows from this that those who are in love truly conjugial are in the continual conatus, that is, the continual will to be one man. That the contrary is the case with those who are not in conjugial love, they themselves well know. Therefore, from the disunion of their souls and minds, such persons do not comprehend what is meant by the Lord's words, They are no longer two but one flesh. Matthew 19:6.
215. (v) Those in true marital love continually wish to be one human being, while those not in marital love wish to be two. Marital love in its essence is nothing else than the wish to be one; that is, the partners desire their two lives to be made one life. This desire is the perpetual endeavor of this love, from which all its effects flow. Investigations by philosophers establish the fact that effort is the very essence of motion, and in the human being the will is living effort; the fact is also plain from the observations of purified reason. It follows that those in true marital love continually endeavor, that is, will to be one human being. Those not in marital love well know that the contrary is the case with them, for they continually deem themselves two from disunion of their souls and minds, and therefore they cannot grasp, either, what is meant by the Lord's words, "they are no longer two, but one flesh" (Matthew 19:6).
215. (5) That they who are in love truly conjugial continually desire to be one man (Latin: homo); but they that are not in conjugial love will to be two. In its essence conjugial love is nothing else than that two will to be one, that is, will that two lives shall become one life. This will is the perpetual effort of that love, from which flow all things that it effectuates. That effort is the very essence of motion, and that will with man is living effort, is confirmed by the researches of philosophers, and is evident also to observers of cultivated reason. It follows from this that they who are in love truly conjugial continually endeavor, that is, will to be one man. That the opposite is the case with those who are not in conjugial love they themselves well know - these because they continually regard themselves as two, from the disunion of souls and minds, do not therefore, apprehend what is meant by the Lord's words:
They are no more twain but one flesh (Matthew. six. 6).
215. V: Quod illi, qui in Amore vere conjugiali sunt, continue velint unus homo esse; sed quod illi qui non in amore conjugiali sunt, velint duo esse. Amor conjugialis in sua essentia non aliud est, quam quod duo velint esse unum, hoc est, quod velint, ut duae vitae fiant una vita; illa voluntas est perpetuus conatus illius amoris, ex quo fluunt omnes effectuationes ejus: quod conatus sit ipsa essentia motus, et quod voluntas sit conatus vivus apud hominem, a scrutiniis philosophorum in confirmato est, et quoque contemplatoribus ex ratione elimata, patet; inde consequitur, quod illi, qui in amore vere conjugiali sunt, continue conentur, hoc est, velint unus homo esse. Quod contrarium sit apud illos, qui non in amore conjugiali sunt, probe sciunt ipsi; qui quia continue se cogitant duos ex disunione animarum et mentium, ideo nec capiunt, quid intelligitur per Domini verba, quod non amplius duo sint, sed una caro, Matth. 19:6.